How to Build Confidence

18 Dec 2021



This article explores the importance of confidence and defines what it is. We will talk about how to believe in yourself and others to be more productive and happy at work and in life
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Table of Contents

  • Introduction
  • What is confidence
  • Where does confidence come from
  • Why confidence matters
  • Ways to build confidence
  • Benefits of building confidence

Everyone wants to be confident, and some individuals have it. However, building their confidence can seem like an impossible task for some people.

What is confidence? 

The belief in one's abilities, decisions, and values is called self-confidence.

It is about believing in yourself and appreciating yourself regardless of your imperfections or what others think of you.

Where does confidence come from?

It comes from within from a deep understanding of your abilities and limitations while remaining hopeful about your future.

Why Self-Confidence Matters

Self-confident people appear to be at ease with themselves and their work. They build trust with others and instil confidence in everyone around them. These are all admirable qualities one can have. 

Ways to Build Your Confidence

Long-term confidence building requires considerable lifestyle changes and habits. You can start working right now to improve your confidence and address the issues affecting it. You may then adapt strategies to boost and sustain your self-confidence. To make up for what you have lost, you can gradually regain confidence through tiny and important situations that lead to more self-trust and confidence.

Here are some of the things you can do to boost and maintain your confidence 

1. Determine the source for your lack of self-confidence

Finding the reason for low self-confidence can lead to a road map for boosting your self-confidence. Self-reflection and journaling are good ideas to start. Try this exercise to figure out what is causing your lack of self-confidence. Make a list of any low self-confidence thoughts or phrases that come up for you for a week. 

2. Start small

Most of us dislike being subjected to much change all at once. Starting small is an important part of self-improvement work. One way to build your confidence is to make small commitments to yourself and then keep them. 

3. Take a look at your previous achievements.

Your self-esteem will soar once you realize you have accomplished something. Prepare an "achievement log" in which you list all of your accomplishments.

4. Develop confident habits

Develop beneficial habits and eliminate negative ones. Regular exercise and a good diet can aid in physical and mental health. Furthermore, research has linked getting a good night's sleep to increased optimism and self-confidence.

5. Set confidence-building goals

Setting and achieving goals and assessing your progress are important strategies for boosting your confidence. With your Personal SWOT Analysis, you can set goals that play to your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, and capitalize on your opportunities to boost your strong sense of self-worth and self-belief.

7. Accept that you will fail, and that is fine

Understanding that failure is unavoidable, and a necessary part of life will allow you to understand confidence fully to maintain your confidence regardless of success or failure.

8. Focus on what you can control

Often, you may try to build self-confidence on things you have no control over, what other people think, how a thing turns out, how other people react, and so on. You must let go of your attachment to things you do not have control over and instead focus on the ones you do have control over.

9. Surround yourself with people who share your values

You must regularly engage with your surroundings, interests, and other people to gain confidence. It is important to create a meaningful environment where you nurture developing self-worth. Share your story with a few close friends on the same path to self-improvement as you. Look for resources such as coaches, podcasts, blogs, and books to help you build a foundation for your new-found confidence.

10. Personal branding

It is also a good idea to work on your branding with all your knowledge and skills. If you portray a favorable image of your true self, you will get the positive feedback that's important for your self-confidence.

11. Seek expert assistance

If gaining self-confidence has become a frustrating task, it may be time to seek help from professionals.

12. Find yourself a confident role-model

Find a role model you know who you consider being extremely confident. What attributes do they possess that lead you to believe this? One or more of the following is most likely:

  • way they carry themselves, their walk, their posture,
  • tone of their voice, how they project their voice, 
  • words they use, 
  • energy and enthusiasm, 
  • how educated or skilled, they are about anything

You can express self-confidence through your actions, body language, what you say, and how you say it. 

Appearance and Body Language will do half of the job to appear confident.

When meeting someone, addressing a meeting, or giving a presentation, people with low self-confidence typically struggle to make a positive first impression. You may feel shy or self-conscious, but you may take appropriate measures to appear more confident.

When you are nervous, such as at a meeting, you slouch, hunch your shoulders and lower your heads to make yourselves appear smaller. Simply sitting up straight can help you feel more confident and less worried. 

Spreading your hands with palms slightly toward your audience when giving a presentation displays an openness and a readiness to share thoughts.

Maintaining eye contact when speaking is vital for engaging with people. This demonstrates that you are paying attention to what the other person is saying and participating in the conversation. While the talk is going on, do not fidget or look away, as this will make you appear distracted or anxious.

When you know what you are talking about, you are more likely to appear (and feel) confident. You will be better prepared to answer questions and speak on the spot if you know a subject.

Read our article, "Body Language in an Interview," for more information on communicating confidently.

Benefits of building self-confidence

Freedom from social anxiety

The more confident you are in your self-worth, the less concerned you will be in social circumstances about what others think of you, allowing you to appreciate people more freely.

Increased self-worth

When people have more self-confidence, they appreciate themselves and their abilities more. Moreover, it is because of this that you may "lift your head high" in life!

Increasing your willingness to attempt new things

Your confidence fuels a lot of what you do in life. It instills in you the desire to try new things and take chances.

More happiness and joy in life

The more confident you are, the happier you are with yourself, and the more you enjoy life. 

More peace of mind and less stress

Living a life devoid of self-doubt, fear, and anxiety naturally leads to more peace of mind and less stress.

More energy and motivation to act

The more confident you are in your ability to achieve things you want to achieve (such as personal goals or aspirations), the more inspired and energized you will be to do so!

Creating the life you desire 

Whether at work or personal hobbies, confidence may help you perform tasks with ease and, as a result, succeed. It has even been proven that confidence is a greater predictor of performance than talent. Confidence in one area begets confidence in another.

Follow these tips to live a more confident life.

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